I once had a guy who was on his way to negotiating what I thought was the party of his dreams—and changed his mind and affect so suddenly and sharply I got emotional whiplash. And I was shocked when he came back half an hour later and said that the sticking point had been…he actually wanted me to bring a friend.
Avoid wasting time in mutual unpleasantness by understanding that the negotiation process is just a midpoint of your collaboration—and it’s the time to get the most specific and clear on what you need and what you value most.
These brothel negotiation tips will leave you prepared to ask for the dream party you deserve.
Considerations:
You will only value what you actually value.
You will need access to your money—plan accordingly!
Giving and receiving are reciprocal relationships.
If you live in lack mindset, you will always experience scarcity and money fear.
You deserve to be deeply nourished, especially if you’ve worked hard.
What do you need right now?
How have you treated yourself recently?
What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever treated yourself to?
How might feeling deeply relaxed, held, and accepted have a positive effect on your life?
How much would you spend on a first date? And second date? And third, and fourth and fifth and sixth and however many more you might need before you get to physical intimacy, and multiply that by how much you value your time, and the ability to immediately drop into an intimate connection with someone?
My negotiation style: relational
1.
feelings check
how are you feeling?
anything I need to know?
how I like to work
2.
discover overlap
how would you like to play today?
activities: what feels fun right now?
time: lose track or keep track?
must-haves, fantasies and/or limits?
3.
finalize
recap priorities
agree on budget
get excited & high-five!!!
4.
health check
find good lighting
pants down (you) & gloves on (me)
inspection + alcohol wipe to look for cuts, abrasions, etc. so we can play safely!
5.
make it official
head to the office
cash or credit?
playtime!
Tips for getting “the most” out of your time: be easy and appreciative
Be generous to yourself and your courtesan.
Get clear on what you want.
Prepare your nervous system and stay calm.
Save up and stick to your budget.
Do your research ahead of time so you know what to expect.
Let the turn-on stay present and simmering as you move through the chat, tour, negotiation, booking and showering that is all the lead-up to the actual time together!
Stay present, open, and be a good lover—listen with your body, communicate, and see what your partner responds to.
Follow their pleasure and yours will likely multiply exponentially!
Let go of ideas about the way things are “supposed to be” while sticking to all agreed-upon boundaries.
For me personally:
if you are touching, massaging, and hugging me in gentle, slow, satisfying ways, telling me sex stories, and staying connected and genuinely appreciating me, I will use the maximum of my buffer time.
If I sense that someone is “trying to get more” time or activity, I become allergic to the “taking” energy, put my guards up, and never go above and beyond.
Niceness, appreciation, and doing your best to meet us goes a long way.
Entitlement is the biggest turn-off.
Show up with a spirit of collaboration and some kindness and you should be good to go!
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