006 | Email Etiquette for Legal Brothels in Nevada

How do you write to a complete stranger you’re hoping to get very personal with?

Find an easy mix of business and pleasure with these don’ts and do’s when it comes to email etiquette with a legal courtesan. Or any sex worker. Or any potentially intimate partner.

BROTHEL EMAIL ETIQUETTE TIPS:

1. Behaviors to steer clear of:

AVOID Rudeness, crudeness and vulgarity.

AVOID any form of sexting.

Save dirty talk for your party.

If you wish to talk naughty ahead of your IRL visit, ask a courtesan for links to fan and chat sites.

If you are seeking erotic conversation, it is most appropriate to compensate the courtesan facilitating that experience.

It is okay to respectfully ask about a specific activity to see if it’s on a courtesan’s menu of offerings.

AVOID sharing your highly detailed erotic fantasies and especially asking for (free?!) feedback on your erotica. That is what fan sites are for.

AVOID copy and pasting your dating profile intro message; sharing interests is wonderful, but your height, weight, eye color matter less to us than how you treat us throughout the process.

AVOID wasting a courtesan’s time; write to someone once you’re pretty set on your visit.

AVOID offering to sell a courtesan your services.

AVOID incoherent ramblings.

2. Introduce yourself—like a polite human being.

Who are you? What's your story?

Feel free to use an alias, but when a person calls attention to the fact that they are giving a “fake name” it can be an “othering” behavior that can indicate discomfort with their decision to engage with a sex worker, or some other expression of mistrust of (often self) judgement.

What inspired you to connect with the courtesan you’re writing to?

3. What’s the purpose of your writing? Hopefully something like:

Beginning a connection with a courtesan you hope to know better.

Communicating with a courtesan you’ve made an appointment with.

Letting a courtesan know you sent her a gift off their wishlist.

Asking a courtesan you are planning to visit if a certain activity is on their yes-list.

Asking another question relevant to your interaction that you can’t find the answer to (that is not about price).

4. Keep it simple & appreciative.

Short and medium are sweet!

If you wish to engage in deep pen-pal experiences, find out if your courtesan has a fan site, chat site, or prefers wishes to be granted for her time and energy.

It is SO hot and lovely when my lovers who enjoy chatting with me surprise me with gifts; I love feeling appreciated and it leaves me feeling excited to appreciate and receive and have a friend’s energy with me in the meantime until we connect next.

5. Give us a chance to respond.

At Sheri’s, we don’t have access to our email when we aren’t on property—and we don’t always get it on Day 1 of arrival.

When someone emails me every few hours “to see if I got their email” I feel harassed and nervous about meeting that person—I prefer to save this kind of anxious communication game for roleplay during a wife-for-a-week luxury session ;)

If it’s been more than 3 days and the lady is at the ranch, a polite check-in is OK by me—just remember we’re always doing our best, and sometimes we get wildly busy!

While you wait, practice meditating, edging, or noticing whatever it is you're currently curious about in life.