✨ The Girlfriend Experience (GFE) ✨
- Luna Robbie
- 2 days ago
- 7 min read
At the opposite end of the spectrum from the 7-minutes-in-heaven bucket list quickie is the gold standard of intimate connection sessions: The Girlfriend Experience.
A term popularized by Steven Soderbergh’s 2009 film and a 2016 TV series of the same name, Girlfriend Experience—commonly shortened to GFE—reminds me of the word organic: it can be more nourishing for both body and mind, but it’s not exactly uniformly regulated around the world.
This discussion focuses on what a GFE can be within the context of legal brothels in Nevada with licensed, card-carrying courtesans (sex workers)—so to be clear: GFE is not defined by use of condoms or dental dams. In fact, I know many, many people in committed partnerships—including marriages—who always use barriers for safer sex.
So what is a girlfriend experience?
tl;dr:
What’s a Girlfriend Experience (GFE)?
Slow, nourishing, real—not performative or fake romance
Co-created intimacy through talk, touch, laughter, and play
Time to drop in deeply, with full access to heart, mind, and body
Can include coaching, kink, conversation, bath time, or a sampler platter
For anyone craving connection, curiosity, and mutual care
Not about pretending—it's about building a real connection together
MY GFE DEFINITION:
This is a little bit like asking “what is a girlfriend?”
Sets of assumptions may vary person to person and the actual specifics can look like almost anything, but the term generally indicates a deeper level of emotional investment or connection between two people.
A specialness.
In the most romantic, idealistic sense: a girlfriend is someone to care about, who cares about you, to invest in, to woo, in a connection of mutual witnessing and growth. These elements are often part of a GFE.
More cynical-sounding additions based on my experience as a relationship coach: a girlfriend can be someone to keep secrets from, to get into resentment loops with, someone to have around, who may or may not be annoying, who you and/or your friends and family judge to be a good-at-least-for-now life accessory. Unless a role play is happening, these flavors are almost never ingredients of a GFE.
In all my time gathering data, asking ladies and clients what their understanding of a girlfriend experience is, the most commonly agreed-upon themes are extended time and deeper intimacy.
For me, a GFE is a slow-paced session that gives us time to drop in deeply through talk and touch.
The extended time offers the fullest access to my heart, mind and body, and the leisurely pace allows for greater connection. Co-creating higher levels of trust and safety allow us to get more profoundly intimate in mutually satisfying ways as we explore each other through hours of nourishing play.
It’s not faking a connection that isn’t there—it’s taking the time to build a real one.
It’s not the terrible performative (empty) romance modeled for us in romcoms—it’s the deep and honest conversations and touch and sharing of selves that happen in the most private moments that they rarely show on-screen.
Just like any date, it’s a choose-your-own-adventure. The specifics can look like anything (see way more details below).
Do you want deep, connected conversation?
In a bubble bath?
Multiple rounds?
Tantric breathwork?
Orgasmic meditation?
Prostate exploration?
Partner-pleasing lessons?
A kink scene?
Someone you can chat with while you pee?
(or my favorite:)
A sampler platter, inspired moment to moment?
Just like any partnership that includes a girlfriend, a girlfriend experience will be what you make it.
WHY I LOVE GFE's:
A Girlfriend Experience is mutual nourishment at the highest level, and my luxury lovers are always the nicest, most respectful and thoughtful humans on this planet.
We have time to connect and share whatever thoughts and feelings we wish, and since many people I’ve gotten to know are growth-oriented and curious, I get to mark the growth of others while noticing and sharing mine.
My clients who love visiting me several times a year often become my pen pals—it’s exciting to look forward to someone, building rapport over repeat visits that offer a great amount of time to catch up and reconnect and have fun.
It is a safe space we can return to again and again, where we can show up however we are, and enjoy existing on this planet together however we decide to do that.
I am a big fan of non-monogamous setups that help all parties involved feel nurtured, satisfied, taken care of, and special, and a Girlfriend Experience is a way for everyone to feel luxuriously taken care of.
GFE DETAILS AND VARIATIONS:
The only limits when you visit are your imagination, bank accounts, and the logistical and legal things that govern Sheri’s Ranch!
Please keep in mind, all specifics must be discussed in person at the ranch on the day of your party with the lady of your choice. The below are simply inspirations you can bring into your negotiation chat so you can easily tell your goddess what kind of experience you’re looking for.
Classic Date
Flirting, food and a finale
I always love building tension while sharing a meal, cuddling, mutual massage, and then…wherever we want to take it! While variations might include interrupting dinner for playful reasons, abrupt shifts between sensuality and laughter, a blur of mouths and hands and parts. I’ll sip a sparkling apple cider while you sip whatever you drink. I also often prefer the reverse classic, with dinner as the finale because working up an appetite and then cuddling and nibbling while revisiting highlights is another favorite.
Taking & Touching
Multiple rounds of each or both, simultaneously
If you’re listening to this, you probably know by now that I love exchanging information through words, especially talking one on one with another human being. I get excited to learn what you’re excited about, and if someone is the shy type, I am endlessly full of questions that stem from real curiosity. I always offer the option to turn the talking off at any given moment, however it’s been known to also shut off automatically, given the correct mutually delicious circumstances, which leads into another favorite variation: talking, getting distracted touching, and repeating. Multiple rounds are equally great for anyone who loves to get to it and has a short refractory period and anyone who is into extended edging or finds themselves overstimulated. My favorite thing about a GFE is we really have time for it all.
Extra Wet
Hot tub, pool or bubble bath
If you need a steamy GFE or want to get squeaky clean before, during or after a party, I recommend a bubble bath in a jacuzzi tub in any of the bungalows. If you’re more of an outside type, perhaps the pool and/or hot tub at the center of the magical oasis that is Sheri’s is more the vibe (nope, I do not have to wear a top, yes we do have to keep it classy because it’s a semi-public view). And there’s always Playland if we want giant locker room style showers to bookend a private hot tub session where we can be as handsy as we wish. Hot water definitely creates hot intimacy.
Kink, Fetish & Role Play
Let’s make dreams come true
I am kinky and it can’t be rushed. A kinky GFE allows multiple hours and plenty of time for negotiation and co-creation of all varieties. I am endlessly curious and take my time when it comes to exploring, training and seducing my counterpart. This session allows for endless opportunity to play and explore and discover the kinky parts of our erotic selves together.
Double Girlfriends
Why choose one when you can have more?
Extended time can be extra helpful when we have an extra girlfriend. Ever had a long, drawn-out four-handed massage edge session? Served two mistresses (with strap-ons?!) simultaneously? Wanted two ladies to do office, classroom, locker room and massage parlor fantasy role plays back-to-back (book Playland for locations)? Or sometimes each person needs to take an hour just to watch before everyone eats snacks together. Polyamorous GFE is definitely available, and you needn’t stop at two ;)
All Night Long
If several consecutive hours leave you wanting more, an Overnight GFE might be the upgrade for you. Depending on our agreement, we do have to sleep, however this allows for extended talk, hanging out, watching movies, listening to music, soaking in a tub together, massage, and falling asleep in each other’s arms sharing our hopes, fears and gratitudes, and in some cases we might do it all over again in the morning.
WHO A GIRLFRIEND EXPERIENCE IS FOR:
Couples, virgins, recently- or long-time single people, a GFE is for those who value intimacy and enjoy luxury experiences.
It’s for anyone who loves deep connection, appreciates clarity, and is really into mutual nurturing with company that feels emotionally safe.
It can be a deeply healing session. Intentional connection to detangle the sticky shame we didn’t ask for. Practicing self-love by taking time out of a busy work schedule to replenish.
Perhaps there is a desire for deep, intimate, regular connection and a preference for a contained experience—something to anticipate every so often.
It’s for someone who is not yet ready for the full commitment of a new life partner, but who wants to have an ongoing relationship of mutual care, learning, growth and witnessing.
It’s for those who enjoy providing for their partner, no matter how long or short their connection is.
It can be an intimate coaching session with a supportive partner—rebuilding confidence in the wake of a difficult time or practicing new skills together.
It can be a session of shared curiosity and exploration at the edges of our horizons.
It can be a time of intention-setting, where everything we do serves as a touchstone for safe, satisfying connection in your life.
For me, it is never about creating faux romanticism—and since I am a full-on woman, I like to silently rename GFE in my head every time: Good Friend Experience.
You know when you have a really great, half- or all-day friend hang? That’s what makes a GFE awesome. We have that energy, we extend it to intimacy whenever it naturally flows.
We get to enjoy being ourselves together, to enjoy the present moment in life to the very fullest, and to co-create an experience where we both leave feeling supremely glad to be alive on this planet, ready for whatever comes next.
MORE QUESTIONS?
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